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The Heart of the Service Slut

April 30, 2017

I've often described myself as a "service Top." People inside the community usually know what that means, but I imagine to kinksters who are disconnected from the community the term can be confusing.

 

When kinksters think of service, we immediately think of service oriented submission, the most common form of service. Service oriented submission usually means that you're not just interested in serving your dominant sexually, but you are also often interested in serving them in other aspects of their life. That usually means through domestic chores, but can also mean things such as providing security, chauffeuring, or emotional support. People who are into providing these needs for their dominant are often called service bottoms, service slaves or service sluts. But, a service slut doesn't necessarily need to be a bottom.

 

I own a button that says "service slut," and I've worn it proudly along side my pins that say "Mistress" and "Sadist." So, how does a Top provide service? Before we delve into this question, I think it's important to say that out of all the labels I hold in the kink community, the one I probably identify with the most (besides sex positive activist) is Sadist, and it's qualifier, "endorphin artist." That said, I only want to play with people who genuinely enjoy the sensation, pain, endorphin rush and personal energy I bring to a session: masochists. While you will find masochists who are not interested in submission, some of the ones I like to play with most, most masochists also wish to tie in a power exchange as well. So to play with masochists, and get what I need from a session, I usually need to provide a form of domination as well.

 

I definitely prefer domination over submission. I like providing discipline and I hate taking orders or being subordinate. This is particularly true outside of the dungeon, but inside the dungeon I am still primarily a sadist. Domination does provide a level of emotional sadism that's attractive, particularly when it's paired with humiliation, but it's not my primary interest as a Top. With that in mind, I usually like to ask my partners a series of questions to figure out how they like to be topped, and I like to use that style of topping to get to what I love, giving you an endorphin high. I can be a slow and sensual sadistic masseuse, I can be a Goddess who's body deserves worship, I can be a cruel Mistress who only wishes to strip you of your manhood, or I can be the maternal figure who wishes to provide encouragement and support. Any of these styles of domination, and many others I've played, will do something for me in the session so long as I can do what I love to do, give you the endorphin rush that I love to provide through sadomasochism.

 

Don't get me wrong, I want to dominate you. During my training, I've bottomed for dominant masochists, and it really does nothing for me. I wan't to be the bitch with the riding crop, and I want to make you cower. That being said, I still want you to get what you need out of the scene. I want to be of service to you. I want to provide you your money's worth, and I want you to book again. I feel that this is why service tops are often so drawn to professional BDSM. We love to fulfill fantasies, we love it when you leave the scene happy, and we love it when you text us to tell us how much fun you had. This is the heart of the service slut, whether dominant or submissive. Professional domination is the natural role of the service top!

 

When I am able to meet you in a dungeon, and provide you the fantasy you need to give you your BDSM fix for another week or month, I feel the most satisfied. I am a Sadist and I am a Domme. I'm also a service slut, and I am happy to be of service, slut.

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